Note to Self: Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

Christie Falls Trail (normal posing is boring)

Every once in a while I have the sudden realization that I’m taking life way too seriously. Unfortunately this usually comes in one big wave and I have to take a step back and kind of laugh. Why do I care so much about so many stupid little things?

The thoughts that tend to take over are usually just trying to make sense of life itself and plan accordingly. Everything from health to finance to emotions to career path to purpose… it’s so easy to try and understand, then make plans and goals and lose sight of the bigger picture.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what you end up doing or how you end up doing it. My most fond memories come from taking risks and not being so serious about my life. Being goofy around my favourite people and then laughing about nothing with them, being the coolest auntie on the block to my niece and nephew and becoming a kid again, trying new things for the first time to challenge myself, and pushing boundaries with what I already know. The most recent time I came to this realization was when I went rock climbing with my family this year.

I have gone rock climbing a few times growing up, but I never made it up to the top of the wall. I kept going about life just accepting that it’s not for me and I will never make it up. However, when I went with my family it was during a time that I was stressed out about life in general and having a hard time coping with it. Suddenly, my fear of heights and falling didn’t seem worse than the anxiety I had been experiencing all day every day, so I made it all the way to the top with ease. I completely surprised myself and it felt so good to accomplish.

It was a nice slap in the face that life is supposed to be fun, challenging, adventurous, and inspiring. I thought my days of rock climbing were behind me, because it was always something that we did with our school. It was a nice reminder about how exciting it is to try something new, and that the every day “problems” don’t really matter. This was just one example of many, but if you feel like you’ve been stressing out over way too many things all day every day, remember to take a step back and realize that you are, in fact, taking life too seriously.

One thing I have learned about myself is that I need to make sure other people are also not taking things too seriously because I know what it feels like when we do. I strive to surround myself with people that have the same mindset because I know that it will benefit everyone in times that we need it the most.

The Whole30 Experience

A few months ago my boyfriend and I wanted to challenge ourselves. I heard about this Whole30 concept through a friend and decided to do a bit more research on it. I am absolutely not into any sort of crash diet in order to lose weight. In fact, that was not at all my intention… I just wanted to know what it would be like to feel better than I did. I have tried and tried to figure out how to eat healthy but also make things taste good, and I honestly thought I had it down. After I read this diet I was intrigued because I wanted to test out all of the claims that it made. Less bloated? More energy? Better sleep? Good mood? Seemed magical, and my boyfriend was on board with trying it out. Here is what I learned from doing this “challenge.”

Before we begin, take a look below. THIS CALENDAR IS SO ACCURATE IT’S SCARY.

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I pay way more attention to what is in our food

WOW WAS I EVER SHOCKED. There are definitely some permanent changes I’ve made since doing this. This diet says to stay away from alcohol, added sugars, dairy, grains, legumes, and processed foods. I immediately went to my cupboard and in my fridge and looked at all of the labels to move what we could eat for the 30 days to be right in front of our faces. I didn’t even realize there was sugar or MSG in seasoning salt… I have been using this my whole life, but I always thought it was just spices and salt. And olives need chemicals to stay green and firm? And pickles?! I can’t even have pickles?! Don’t get me started with condiments. This was so shocking to see the amount of chemicals I put in my body every single day. Not only chemicals but there is sugar in everything. Like, everything.

I learned how to make a few sauces and dips to help make things taste better and it was actually easier than expected to make homemade sauce. I remember how long it took my brain to comprehend how to make spaghetti sauce until I realized I am supposed to blend tomatoes and spices. I always just grab spaghetti sauce off the shelf and call it a day. It turned out great and I felt really good eating it.

There were also a few things that were Whole30 approved that definitely saved the day. For example, my friend gave me a Whole30 approved mayonnaise, and thankfully Frank’s Red Hot Sauce was also approved – and yes, I did put this on everything. There are probably a lot more choices out there now and it would be worth investing in them to make your life easier.

I’m pretty sure sugar is heroine

I cannot accurately describe the feeling of going through a sugar withdrawal. It is brutal. In just a couple days I felt like I got hit by a bus. Especially going cold turkey on it, it was a shock to the system. You’re not supposed to have even a small amount during this and you need to fully commit to going 100% for the entire 30 days. I have never craved something more… All I could think of was sugar because I wasn’t allowed to have sugar.

A couple of things that helped me were fat bombs and berries. I think a lot of the time I’m craving sugar is actually just me craving chocolate. You aren’t supposed to make anything that resembles what you usually crave because the point is to destroy bad habits. HOWEVER, that being said, I was suffering HARD at the beginning, so these got me by for the first 5 days. Fat bombs can be made all sorts of ways, but I made them with cocoa powder, coconut oil, cinnamon, and almond butter. You freeze them and then they end up having the same consistency as a chocolate bar, but tastes pretty gross. It would be good with sugar of course… Now I make them with honey or maple syrup and they are most definitely tolerable.

Berries are a good choice since they are easy to eat for a snack and a bit lower in sugar than other fruit choices. Sometimes I just want something to graze on and they are the perfect size for that. My go-to easy snacks were blueberries and almonds. As soon as I was craving something sweet I would make myself a small bowl of berries and almonds and it worked just fine.

It’s much easier to eat healthy when your entire household is on board

There has been many times that I told my boyfriend I don’t want to eat dairy, or processed food, or sugar, but as soon as I see him with cheese and crackers I can’t help myself. Same for him, there has been many times he wanted to stop drinking alcohol, but I would constantly invite him out with friends and my sports teams and he would feel obligated to have a beer.

I would say to successfully do the full 30 days, you and whoever else you live with NEED TO be in it together. It’s a huge challenge especially during the worst part of the sugar withdrawal where you become angry and irritated. I remember finding him on the couch just scrolling through pictures of delicious burgers. We wanted to quit about 10 times during this, but we kept going because we needed to find out the benefits of eating clean.

It actually turned out to be quite fun once we go the hang of it since we needed to learn how to make everything homemade. We worked together to come up with ideas for meals and snacks and cooked together whenever we could. It would’ve been brutal to be making a salad while he was eating hot dogs so again, try to get everyone on board.

It’s a bit lonely

Although we spent more time cooking together, we spent much less time out with friends. We were so committed that we didn’t want to take the chance of what is potentially in restaurant food to ruin what we were working so hard at. This diet also says to steer clear of industrial oils which would be a hard one to avoid. We found mixed nuts without peanuts (which is a legume) that was roasted in peanut oil so we couldn’t have it. We also found cashews that were roasted in canola oil so we couldn’t have that either. So we assumed pretty much everything in restaurants wouldn’t be guaranteed to be “clean.”

We were not only paying attention to what might be in the food in restaurants, but being around friends has a huge amount of impact on the choices we make. Even if we both ordered plain salad, it would be so hard to eat while watching everyone else drink beer and eat saucy wings. So rather than suffering through this, we just didn’t go out.

The benefits of getting rid of waste

After going through the roller coaster of mental and physical confusion of changing our diet so drastically, amazing things happened. We were sleeping well, we had more energy, and we weren’t bloated… at all. I know the goal of this diet is absolutely not to lose weight, but I found it fascinating how much weight we lost just because we weren’t full of inflammatory foods and processed junk. I ended up losing 13 pounds and my boyfriend lost 23 pounds. Of course, this was a minor motivating factor for the last few days just because we were also looking good in addition to feeling good.

It is still shocking to me that I ate a normal amount of food… but lost weight. Eating whole foods is filling when you eat enough and lower in calories too. So the amount of “empty calories” we were consuming before must have been a lot. Alcohol and juice are easy ways to get a lot of calories with no nutritional value. And having a little bit of this every day adds up! Had I not done this diet, I would still believe that it’s fine to eat whatever I want when I want because it won’t affect me. It in fact affects me a lot. Not only with managing weight, but with mental clarity, stable mood and just not feeling gross (i.e. bloated all the time).

What NOT to do

Do not end the diet like we did. I repeat, DO NOT do what we did. After the 30 days, we were SO EXCITED to be able to eat yummy foods again. What you’re supposed to do, is slowly introduce foods back into your diet category by category to see what is truly negatively affecting your body and how. I think our problem was we didn’t start this diet to find foods we shouldn’t have anymore, we just wanted to see how good we can feel without all the junk in our body. So naturally, we decided to make a big ‘burger and fries’ feast. We didn’t take our time to enjoy every bite, we just ate like animals who haven’t been fed in a month. Delicious soft brioche buns, ketchup, mustard, pickles, cheese, handmade burger patties with fries on the side.

Then our bodies exploded. Just kidding, but that’s pretty much what it felt like. Think of a time you had eaten way too much and had to sit on the couch to digest. It was like that, except add in a million times more inflammation and bloating on top of it. Our bellies were hard. Like a basketball. And we could barely move. We were instantly filled with so much regret. It also felt like the worst fast food you’ve ever had and how it made you feel. I think we would’ve actually been dead if we got fast food burgers instead.

As exciting as it is to accomplish 30 days of eating well, I highly advise that you slowly introduce foods back into your diet. If you aren’t looking to find out what affects you and how, please still add things slowly and in small amounts.

Conclusion

The Whole30 diet is worth doing at least once in your life. Go all out, 100%, because you will learn a lot while doing it. We are considering to do it again with less drastic measures, just being a little more lenient so we don’t feel guilty eating at restaurants or wanting to use different sauces. I would go without alcohol and sugar for sure, no dairy, legumes or grains.

I think all in all the “whole foods” concept stuck with us. We prefer eating whole grains rather than bread and pasta, and we eat less sugar in general. We construct most meals with a protein and two vegetables and we try different healthy snacks. I eat much better than I did before and I don’t feel guilty when I do want something like a beer or pizza. Instead of having these twice a week, we can now appreciate that having it once a month is a better option.